Welcome back, Big Lifers! Today is the final page of your North Star section of your Big Life book, and the page that you will start your days with. It's called the Daily Thread. It is a tool to practice checking into your own inner-landscape and to make meaning and purpose in the daily life that comes from inside you. Here's how it works, as you start your day, put your hand on your heart. Close your eyes. Take one slow breath. Just notice — what word, image, color, feeling,

Welcome back Big Lifers. Today we are adding a Safety page to your Big Life Book. This is where you list the things that make you feel genuinely safe and secure. That sounds simple but safety is deeply personal and different for everyone. For me I looked at my astrology — my moon is in the second house, which means safety for me lives in financial security, material comfort, being able to earn my own money and feeling valued and worthy as a person. And honestly, that's true.

Welcome back, big lifers today we are going to work on the "I'd Like" page of your Big Life Book. The purpose of this page isn't goals or aspirations necessarily — it's to get acquainted with your wants and to train your nervous system that wants are safe. At the top of the page write "I'd Like," then make a list of things you'd like, not worrying about whether it's realistic or doable. Pay attention to your body as you write. Do some things make you feel excited? Do some mak

Welcome back Big Lifers. Today we are working on one of my favorite pages of your Big Life Book — your Big Life Feels page. This isn't about what you want to happen in your Big Life. It's about how you want it to feel. Back in my old life I was so worn out and overstretched that I used to fantasize about a life that felt peaceful. Calm. Restful. I imagined a little place all my own that I could decorate to the nines, take walks, read and write books, have a soft quiet life. T

Today we are talking about the last page in your Big Life Book — your Resist and Restore page. You'll probably use it a lot at first and less and less as time goes on. I came up with this sitting at a local coffee shop working on this program. I sat down and immediately thought I was too cold to work. Then I had a hot flash and felt too hot. Then a song came on that reminded me of a sad time and I thought I should emotionally go where that takes me. Then I felt restless and t

Welcome back Big Lifers. Now that you have your Big Life Book ready, let's talk about the very first thing that goes inside it — your Permission Slip.Working with clients who are discovering themselves after controlling circumstances, what I find they need most isn't ideas or advice. It's permission. Just plain permission to do as they wish and be who they are. I remember reading Stephen King's On Writing where he gives you permission to write every day. That one tool was so

Today I want to introduce you to the Big Life Book. It's based on the idea of a Commonplace Book. Historically these were personal collections where people gathered things that mattered to them — quotes, observations, images, ideas. Writers and thinkers kept them for centuries. We are going to create one to help you explore and discover who you are and what your Big Life looks and feels like for you. Your Big Life Book is a support system that walks with you on this journey.

Big Life Society started with my grandma Ruth. She was a 1950s housewife in a bad marriage, but when my grandpa left her she blossomed and bloomed. She traveled the world supporting herself as an artist. She took lovers, enjoyed time with friends, had adventures and really lived. She was never rich, always living in little one-bedroom apartments that she decorated gorgeously with original art and pieces from her travels. My aunts called it her big life. I used to think I was