Living Your Big Life Is a Revolution

Why Reclaiming Your Ego Is Sacred, Radical, and Necessary

What if I told you that simply choosing to live fully, joyfully, and freely, your own Big Life is an act of rebellion? That reclaiming your time, your voice, your pleasure, your power, your body, your intuition, your gifts—your entire humanity—is not just healing, but revolutionary? Because in a world built by systems that were never made for you, to choose yourself is to break the rules.

Let’s name the truth clearly:

Modern society—governments, religions, medicine, spiritual traditions, cultural myths, and economies—was not designed for wholeness.It was designed for dominance. And its architects? Primarily hetero, cisgender, white men. Everything from sacred teachings about ego death to standardized medical trials to ideas about “goodness” and “worthiness” has been filtered through a worldview that centers one kind of human and silences or distorts everyone else.

If you are a woman, a queer or trans person, a person of color, disabled, neurodivergent, fat, a survivor of high-demand religion, poor, or in any way part of a group society sees as “other”—

You weren’t the blueprint.You were the shadow.You were the object, the sinner, the helper, the victim, the sidekick—but never the hero, or when you were the hero it was in stories that made you the hero because you acted like hetero, cis, white men in a hetero, cis, white men's story.

And when spiritual systems told you to subdue your ego, that was not medicine.That was erasure.

Because for those who have been actively suppressed, shamed, marginalized, abused, ignored, and rewritten—the ego was never inflated. It was never even allowed to form safely.

So let’s be clear:

When someone who’s been handed all the power is told to shrink their ego, it might be a needed dose of humility.But when someone who’s been invisibilized is told to do the same, it’s just more of the same violence dressed up in virtue.

This is where The Big Life Society begins.

We don’t teach people to get smaller.We teach people to build a self that can hold their truth. A juicy, grounded, radiant ego that knows how to protect, choose, dream, express, and exist without apology.

This Is Ego Work for the Erased

The Big Life Society is not about becoming selfish.It’s about becoming sovereign.It’s for the ones who were trained to defer, obey, disappear, suppress, perform, or survive.

It’s for:

• Women of all backgrounds who were raised to serve instead of live

• LGBTQI+ people whose very identities were called sinful, dangerous, or unnatural

• People of color who were taught they had to work twice as hard to even be seen as human

• Survivors of authoritarian religious systems or abusive childhoods who were told obedience is holiness and being good.

• Anyone who grew up believing that who they are is too much or not enough

  
  

You may have internalized the idea that putting yourself first is wrong. That joy is indulgent. That boundaries are cruel. That safety is selfish. That power is dangerous. But those were lies told to keep you small so others could keep feeding off your labor, your energy, your time, your gifts and all the things that you are and were meant to be. Your Big Life is exactly that, a life based on who you are, what you want, not your role in others' lives who don't value your personhood or humanity.

In truth, you need a strong ego not to dominate—but to discern.To know who you are and what you need.To hear your intuition.To move through the world as someone who trusts themselves.

Because how can you build a life that suits you, if you’ve never been allowed to exist as yourself?

The Sacred Tasks of Ego Rebuilding

Ego work in this context isn’t about puffing yourself up. It’s about becoming whole again. About slowly, gently restoring what was stolen or never given.

This is what it looks like:

• Naming what happened to you. Not spiritual bypassing. Not positivity. Truth.

• Saying no without explanation. Because your energy and body are not public property.

• Discovering what actually makes you happy. Not what you were taught you should want.

• Practicing boundaries, rest, creativity, and self-trust. Over and over again, until it feels real.

• Letting yourself take up space, pleasure, and attention. Without guilt. Without apology.

  
  

This is not ego as entitlement.This is ego as embodiment.

When you become a fully resourced, rooted, radiant version of yourself—Not just reacting or surviving, but creating, leading, choosing—you become a force. You don’t need to overthrow a system.You become the alternative to it. And yes—it will feel strange at first.You might hear the voices rise up, calling you selfish or dangerous or too much. Those are lies designed to shame you into self-obliteration. But you are not too much.You are finally enough for yourself.

And that?

That is the revolution.